Hi there…!

To be better in bed, you first need to get your woman into your bed! To this end, I started talking last week about the first three of seven key factors to help you date successfully. [View last week’s post here…]

As you will recall, last weeks key factors to help you date successfully were:

  1. Know What You Want
  2. Be Relaxed and Confident
  3. Be Interested in Her

I’ve had some feedback that said, “everyone says ‘be relaxed and confident, but how to do you achieve that?’ I’d like to offer a course soon that will help you with that topic as well as go into depth on all these other seven key factors. If you are interested, please send me a short email at: info@howtobetterinbed.com and I’ll let write to you as soon as I have the course available.


Date Successfully Key Factor Nr. 4: Set the Right Goal for Your First Date

I’ve made this mistake myself. I certainly wish I had learned this one a lot earlier in my life… The goal of a first date is not to decide if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with / fall in love with.

The goal of a first date is to find out if you would like to go out on a second date.

First dates are always a bit awkward. If you met online and have never met the person before, this is especially tough. If you do know the person already it is easier – but a first date creates a whole new level of interest that you probably didn’t have before.

Trying to decide your future with this one person on just one date is going to put huge pressure on both of you. Take that load off. All you want to know is: Do you enjoy spending time with this person? Do you want to get to know them better?

By setting a more realistic goal, you have a much better chance of being able to relax and enjoy yourself. Which in turn, is more likely to make the date a success.

Date Successfully Key Factor Nr. 5: Look Your Best

This success factor is mainly for the men I’m sorry to say. It is rare to see a woman who has not thought carefully about her clothes before she goes out on a date. Women may well buy a new outfit (or pair of shoes) so that they are confident that they look good on the date.

Men are more likely to put off thinking about what they are going to wear until an hour before they need to go out.

Make sure that you look good. [This is part of the “be confident” from last week] If you are freshly showered, dressed in a clean outfit that you ironed the night before, and wearing freshly polished shoes – then you are going to be confident that you are looking your best.

Your date will appreciate that you made the effort to look good for them. You are sending the message, that they are worth the time and effort it takes for you to look your best.

Date Successfully Key Factor Nr. 6: Avoid the Friend Zone

Right from the word go, you want to make it clear that you are not looking to be “just friends”. You are looking for more. That could be a lover, partner, girlfriend/boyfriend, or whatever.

Do not aim to be friends first and more later. That very rarely works.

Date Successfully Key Factor Nr. 7: Plan the Date

If this is your first date and you want to get to know each other, then make sure that you can talk quietly for at least some part of the date.

From experience, I strongly recommend that you have a couple of ideas for a “spontaneous” change of plans. For any number of reasons, you might want to change the location you have chosen. For example, being able to suggest a short walk or something else to do together within a few minutes’ reach, maybe just the thing to get the conversation moving again.

Don’t plan a first date to go on too long. Keep the first date short and end it while it is going well. The person you have just met is far more likely to look forward to a second date if the first one was short, fun, and lively.

Have fun dating…!


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